Love - In Love

  Do you know the difference between, you love somone, or are "in love" with them? 

There is the unconditional love between family. You don't have to like them or the things they do but you find that you love them anyway.  That is not the kind I am talking about.   You can also be "in love" with someone and not like them very much.

Its love when you put their needs before your own not once, but as a given.

Its "in love" when you put their needs before yours & you don't think about the after effects.

It's love when they are part of your day, Its "in love" when they are your first thought of the day, & the last thought of your day.

Its "in love" when you can't stand the fact that they can breathe without you.

Its "in love" when you find yourself smileing for no reason at all with them on your mind.

"in love" A touch can run a shiver thru you, and the same touch can be reasuring.

"in love" Craveing time, no matter how much you already share. 

Its love when you know that perhaps passion has faded, but you still care.

It's "in love" when you realize that it is not an obsession, because it has not faded over time.

    I believe it is possible to be "in love" with more than one person at a time, just as one can love more than one person at a time.  It takes its toll. It helps to be able to separate the differences. 

   When young or old lovers are "in love" with each other and only each other, it is a positive gift that does not compare with anything else we have been given in life to enjoy.

  When someone is truely "in love" with more than one person, it can eat you alive.

By the same token, if you are "in love" alone, an experience of sadness & lonelyness that you would never think possible.

If you love somebody, it is always a good thing to tell them.

If you are "inlove" with someone, sometimes it is better not to tell them. (back to that eaten alive statement)

If you are "inlove" with somone and it is not the same feelings returned, you will be the one giving more of yourself... and feel empty, because there will never be what you are looking for returned to you.

Dedication, careing, loyalty all get mushed together in the love title. The same three have nothing to do with being "in love".  There is no controlling who you are "in love" with.  You can't change it either. 

You don't have to be dedicated to be "inlove", you don't have to be loyal to be "inlove" you don't have to be careing to be "inlove", because sadly enough, I believe that there are more people who are "in love" alone.

   So many unhappy people going thru the motions because they only love the one they are with.  So many unhappy people because they are "inlove" with somone and silent.

    There is a quote that says "The one who loves more, gives more".  I believe this is true.  Makes you sit back and think, are you a giver or are you a taker in your current relationship. If you can't tell which, open your eyes a little wider. If it is a mutual give & take, chances are, you are a happy individual!

     I have heard the statement "I love you  & I am "inlove" with you".  I gladly take both to heart, and the feeling is so mutual. I just hope it means the same to them as it means to me.

So for all of the people I love, I hope you are happy. And for all of the people that are

"in love"... I hope it is the right kind. .... how do you know....... you just do.